The concerns I would have are the job and the parents. But even if it was, that doesn't mean it wouldn't have been worth it. Otherwise I need to move on and find someone who is ready for that. Who's career will take precedence in regards to things like moving - it might end up being th person more established in their which would tend to be the older partner. They're adults, nobody is forcing either of them, nemo dating and it sounds like she's being treated well.
She is taking a balanced perspective on this, and she realizes that even though this guy seems perfect now, things could go very wrong and is she is open to more information and perspectives. But it sounds like they're aware of those risks, too. He treats her very well and with a lot of respect and kindness. We still root for each other. As for parents who may kick her out of the house, this is a separate issue.
The fact that they're working together is a red flag though. She'd have a lot of support from friends and roommates who are learning all this stuff at the same time. Some are fine as long as one person is not the supervisor direct or not of the other.
A 30 year old woman dating a 24 year old man
When it doesn't matter is when you and your partner don't talk or worry about it. As a mother wife and aunt how should I respond to this? Not that you aren't mature. If she doesn't know, I suggest you tell her. Does your sister's boyfriend understand or identify at all with your sister's background?
Lifes lessons are learned via experience. The reasons it didn't work out had nothing to do with our age gap. The same thing with George Clooney, who is in his fifties now.
No, it can't possibly work but you're not going to stop moving forward just because a bunch of internet strangers tell you it's a horrible idea. The mark of a good relationship is how well does he treat her? This is, to be blunt, complete sexist bullshit. The only possibly, though maybe not age-related issues I can think of that arose had to do with expectations.
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Myself, and I am sure others on this thread would question his morals and values. Although your point is well taken, age is not necessarily relevant, there seems to be an issue between old math and new math. Are you two happy with the relationship?
- Doesn't sound like a problem to me.
- Without any evidence that this guy is mistreating your sister or using her, I wouldn't be worried, especially if your sister is mature and generally makes sensible decisions about important things.
- If some year old dude referred to me as a cougar, I'd probably smack him right upside the head.
Basically, get ready to have a lot of conversations sooner than you might have had you not dated up a decade. If it helps you to get past the age difference, remember this guy was in his twenties a few months ago. You seem to think that she likes you, but do you like her? Whomever started that cougar and milf shit should die in a fire. Be glad you've found someone you care about and who feels the same.
A 30 year old woman dating a 24 year old man
Put another way, do you really want the respect of men who think this way about women? After your first post, I was gonna say well she seems in love, and it doesn't seem to be about his money, so sure why can't it work? You and I most likely have virtually identical life experiences and overall approaches to the world. How well does she treat him? Age doesn't really enter into it at all.
We were taught some good and many deeply twisted, woman hating, and patriarchal things about love, sex, and relationships. But the fact that it concerns you and you have to ask this question says to me, pretty strongly, that you personally shouldn't date this woman. One of the great things about being a year-old woman is getting to date year-old men as a counter to this - i found the closer a guy was to my age, the more disrespectful and crappy he was. If she isn't or if he turns out to do something really wrong then just listen to her and keep doing what you're doing - listen to her and give the best advice you can. No - that dream won't formulate, and at best, gluten it will seem to and then fizzle out rather quick once you come back down to earth.
To celebrate, scan some cats or help fund Mefi! Why do you care what other people think about your prospective relationship, or what they might think about you on the basis of who you date? Or she might get burned, like any other relationship. To no ill effect, and in fact we're friends to this day.
If you think this way already, what you are going to think when it's time for your friends to meet your girlfriend? How long have you been dating him? If you want to prove something to your father then this is it, prove to him how responsible you would be with your life and your relationship. The trouble is I didn't really know what was reasonable here, hence the question. Long before I ever met my wife, she was involved in a similar relationship, age-wise.
Eventually he was transferred to another city and that was that, but we had a terrific time. Not sure why you keep hijacking the thread with your short rants. My reading of your rebuttals suggests to me that you actually have a good handle on your situation already. In both relationships, I very much felt we were equals. Let people deal, speakers it's not a big problem unless you make it a big problem.
How long have they been together? Eventually they broke up, obviously, but she turned out ok. And it wasn't because of our ages that it didn't work out. Are you sure that they've failed at competing? The only problem I would see would be if he didn't have an education, had financial problems, or some drama in his life.
- Also, I'd just like to request that you and society as a whole work super-hard to unpack yourselves of this notion.
- Like you, I had a lot of growing up left to do so did my girlfriend.
- However, you are escalating the debate by name calling, which isn't very mature.
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In other words, either a five year age difference between consenting adults is creepy or it isn't. But then I read the rest of this thread, and I changed my mind. If i were you i would really think this out, for it seems you have already got the picture draw before it happens. And she deletes her account and runs away.
Gwyneth Paltrow is five years older than Chris Martin. As a year old, I dated a year old. Who knows whether these things will work out years is a lot in terms of life stage, when to settle down, etc.
My default attitude toward that age difference would be skepticism but openness. In that sense dating an older woman reflects well on you. Melissa, I think you see a guy, in the now, who is a great match. As for this man you have an interest in.
Why don't you ask her our first and start dating and then see if you two are compatible? She needs to be dating someone more in her maturity bracket. For what it's worth, when I started dating Mr.
Maturity might be an issue, but you'll get that in any relationship, irrespective of the age difference. Best to them, they are sure gonna need it. Also, her mom retired early in part to accommodate her Dad and she's spent the last decade or so being pretty bored.